Monday, April 17, 2006

**Dedicated to the confused souls out there**

Well, assuming that we have an average life span of 80 to 100 yrs old, being a 20yr old means i am at my quarter life, so are those of you who will drop by my blog from time to time. If you suffer from any of the symptoms i am going to describe below, it is not an coincidence. It might mean that u are going thru a quarter-life crisis. Well, from whay i leanrt in sch, if u cant identify a risk, u cant formulate a control to prevent, detect or cure it. The scenarios described below are taken from wikipedia and a website: http://www.cds.caltech.edu/~shane/text/quarterlifecrisis.html

According to wikipedia, the characteristics of quarter-life crisis are:
Those in red are the symptoms are are more likely to strike us cos we are still studying...and there will be an elaboration of the characterisitics below, as i lift from the website by an unknown author:

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.

You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.

You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

Well, by doing this little bit of research, i am not sayin that i am undergoing a quarter-life crisis but i am also not sayin i don't feel like some of the pains described above, just that i dun tink it that that serious. I have my own troubles too but i guess they are trivial now that i tink of them and sometimes, the more i tink the more i feel that we are making ourselves miserable when we can just laugh it off. However, i tink it is a process all of us have to go thru, some people jus have it easier (like me) while others struggle alot jus to get things back on track. Ultimately, it is a personal outlook to life and the experience of this crisis, i hope, will bring things into perspective for future life.

I am no expert because i am also growin up, with many thoughts in my brain that only i noe but once u are able to recognise that it is a crisis that you are going thru, it does help to take some private time tinkin abt it and now that it is summer time, why not just soak in the sun and enjoy every precious moments? Doing things that you like might reduce negative feelings, and some exercise helps too i tink...

yVONne | 3:38 PM

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